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Let your tears flow, and may your sorrows be softened with happy memories.
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I am always here for you, sending you love and strength during this distressing time. Here are some great samples of condolence messages to a friend that will surely bring them comfort and ease their pain. I actually have gone awhile now without stomping around in a huff and slamming doors, and instead of having low self-esteem and thinking to myself "I'm so stupid, why do I make such stupid moves" now I'm always thinking stuff like "hooray, I just pwned this person! That was brilliant how I put them away!" Even though I realize this is all really silly, on some subconscious level it does effect my self-esteem whether I win or lose.When someone special to your friend has passed away, it is kind to send a bereavement message to your friend to express words of sympathy. It really is such a difference in my mental state since I adopted this policy, I'm not irritable all the time anymore. I don't need to do that to learn or improve, and why should I give them the satisfaction of beating me? For me, the anger and bad moods that come from losing a lot just aren't worth it.
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I'll play worse players, and equal players, but never players who are better than me. Speaking for myself, I will never play someone I don't think I can beat again. Shadowfax, even when you're beating up on a player rated lower than you because they blundered, it can actually be challenging to find the absolute best way to take advantage of a blunder so that they lose the most material, and to spot all the forced checkmate sequences that may arise. TheBigDecline, I play on other sites that allow you to choose your color since I always prefer to be black. Ultimately we realize we don't get paid to do this and yield to the desire to just play for fun. I would even go so far as to say that the quality of opposition you face doesn't matter at all in regards to you improving, as long as you are reading chess books, doing tactical puzzles, watching chessbase DVDs, and analyzing your games. So, if we must have this addiction we should let it put us in good moods and build our ego, instead of tearing the ego down and making ourselves angry. I think of it this way, a lot of us are addicted to chess.
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Also when you win a lot, when those rare losses do happen they're easier to take and the anger doesn't last, as opposed to even losing 50% of the time where if you lose 2 or 3 in a row you may be put in a bad mood for the rest of the day. Who wants to go back and dwell on mistakes after they've just lost? I used to make myself do that all the time, and it was not good for me emotionally. When you win, you're happy and have a clear mind, and are more open to looking at your mistakes than you are if you've already lost and your ego is wounded. It's a lot easier to go back and analyze games you won than the ones you lost in. That anger is going to come out eventually, if not at the conclusion of the game then later when the person will start being irritable with their family. Even if outwardly they appear calm, inside there's at least a little tinge of anger at the loss. Now I've switched to only playing people lower than me, and I'm so much happier now that I'm winning all the time and I feel like I'm learning more too.Īnger is an emotion that clouds the mind and prevents learning, and I believe losing makes the vast majority of people angry on some level. I used to always play people ranked higher than me thinking that was the way to get better.